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Do you have secrets about your sexual behavior that you hope no one will discover? | |
Do you ever feel guilty about your sexual habits? | |
Do you ever secretly view pornography at work or when no one is around? | |
Have you repeatedly tried to stop some sexual behavior that you felt was wrong? | |
Would a Victoria's Secret catalog tempt you to masturbate or fantasize about the women? | |
Do you "replay" (in your mind) the sensual scenes from movies you've viewed? | |
When you see a woman dressed in a revealing outfit, do you have trouble averting your eyes? | |
Do you secretively go to strip clubs or adult bookstores? | |
Do you have favorite TV shows because you're sexually attracted to certain characters? | |
Do you ever flirt with women besides your wife or girlfriend? |
So what is a passing score? That is difficult to answer.
How close am I to the edge?
The purpose of the test above is not to see how close you can walk to the edge without falling and hurting yourself. Inappropriate sexual thoughts, desires, and behavior are a slippery slope. For those who have slipped and fallen -- we have the scars. We know that a clear boundary must be set and that having other guys hold us accountable to keep a safe distance is essential for our health.
If you answered "yes" to one or two of these questions, you likely have some unhealthy sexual compulsions. The more "yeses"; you answered, the more your issues have progressed towards addiction. The more "yeses" you answered, the lower your chances of making lasting changes without the help of another person. If you tallied two or more "yes" answers, we encourage you to get involved in an FMO small group.