Pure Life Alliance

A ministry of support for wives - or ex-wives, or fiancées, or girlfriends - of men struggling with sexual purity

It is estimated that half of all men involved in church struggle with sexual purity issues. As a result, men are on the sidelines in leading their families and see themselves as unworthy to be involved in spiritual ministry. Women are hurt, confused and shamed into secrecy, assuming that they are at fault. They feel inadequate as wives. Both fear the results of sharing this struggle with their church leadership and community and so live in daily shame, pain and isolation.

Hidden Hurt is a safe, confidential place for wives, ex-wives and fiancées of men struggling with sexual purity to receive hope, help and healing.
Information, encouragement, accountability and on-going support is provided through weekly small groups.

Come learn:

Why men struggle with purity
How we can support them as they work on their issues
How to cope if they choose not to recognize that their behavior is a problem and work on their issues

Most importantly, come learn how to seek God and rely upon Him in the midst of this difficult journey (because we can't “fix” our men).

Whether your wound is recent or old; whether your man is battling well or struggling, Hidden Hurt is a safe place where you can come, be your “real” self, and share the hope of healing. It’s a place where you can bring your secret pain out of the darkness into the light. It’s a place you can truly say, “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.” (2 Cor 1:3-4)

Women new to our ministry begin with our 11-week Welcome Group. This informational class creates a foundation for healing. You will come to:

Understand the male addiction process and your role in his recovery
See the importance of a safe, confidential small group, and that you are not alone in your struggle
Discover what to expect during the healing process, for you and him
Identify co-dependent behavior and learn to set healthy boundaries
Experience care and support as you journey through anger, grief, hopelessness, anxiety and other painful feelings on this unplanned journey

We are not counselors; we are not therapists. We are wives standing beside men, grappling with the journey toward healthy sexuality, who want to see other women do the same.