Pure Life Alliance

Guys struggle in varying degrees. However, according to one survey, 64% of men struggle with sexual addiction or sexual compulsion including, but not limited to use of pornography, compulsive masturbation, or other secret sexual activity.

Do you struggle with impure sexual thoughts or actions? The majority of men, if they are completely honest, will either answer:

I've Tried Before - Yeah! I've tried to change a thousand times. I've prayed, read books, and I've even talked to a pastor. I honestly don't think that my heart and mind can be purified.
I'm OK Really - I'm OK. Well OK, hey, I'm a healthy male - this is the way I am. Just because (I look at porn, I engage in pre-marital sex, my heart is full of lustful thoughts and desires. fill in the blank) that isn't a big deal. I'm not really hurting anyone.

I've Tried Before

Maybe you've tried a million times to change without success. We are not saying the journey is easy. But you should ask yourself, how intensely do you want to change?

Have your problems caused you enough pain yet?

Are you willing to reach out to man and admit you have a problem?

You are not the only one who struggles. Many men feel isolated because of inappropriate sexual behavior. "If my friends really knew my struggles, they would reject me. If my wife or girlfriend knew, she might leave me."
Struggling in isolation is not the answer. Men feel as though there is nowhere to turn, so they struggle in secrecy, rarely seeing consistent victory.
You need accountability. There is an ancient proverb that says, "A cord of three strands is not quickly broken". Guys are stronger if they stick together.
There is hope. We know hundreds of men who are changed. Please read Our Stories and believe that change is possible. We would love to help you get into an accountability group.

I'm OK Really

Perhaps you're thinking, "I'm doing OK. I'm not really hurting anyone and I really don't want to change my behavior or thought patterns."
Many times guys don't understand or don't want to face the hidden costs of their bad habits. Examples:

A smoker gets lung cancer
A person who overeats has heart problems
A person who lacks self control has problems with consumer debt

With sexual impurity, many times there are no visible consequences for years. However, we cannot escape the fact that we will reap what we sow. Inappropriate sexual behavior that is stimulating or pleasurable now, may cause you a great deal of pain later.

What are the consequences if you continue your behavior?

Loss of self-respect - feelings of shame and the need to conceal your behavior
Lack of relational intimacy - until you start living with integrity you may not know how differently your relationships and attitudes can look.
Lack of satisfaction in your current relationships
You may lose your wife, fiancée or girlfriend
A destructive legacy for your children

If you progress you could:

Lose your job
Get arrested
Lose your reputation

Maybe you don't struggle with internet pornography. Inappropriate websites are a huge problem for many guys, but that is not the only area of sexual purity where men struggle.

Do you struggle with 2nd looks at an attractive woman?
Maybe you struggle with long first looks?
How do you do when you travel?
Are you glad movie titles aren't printed on your bill?
Any inappropriate relationships with women at the office?
How's your thought life?

So what's the bottom line?

Most guys who struggle in secrecy will progress into deeper problems
Your behavior may be very dishonoring to your wife, future wife, or girlfriend
You will reap what you sow - there will be consequences - you will likely be found out
The people you care most about will be the ones you hurt the most

You can stay on a path of progression and pain or you can seek a solution