Books for Spouses
Healing from Sexual Betrayal

Living with Your Husbands Secret Wars Living with Your Husband's Secret Wars
by Marsha Means

 
Hope After BetrayalHope After Betrayal
by Meg Wilson

"Meg’s book has quickly become one of our top recommendations for women who have just found out about their husband’s struggle with sexual purity. She skillfully weaves her story and the stories of several other women to create an informative but easy read. The chapter recording "frequently asked questions" Dave Wilson receives when he speaks to wives on this topic is one of our favorites, as it provides an excellent resource for those desperately trying to understand why men makes these choices. Meg and Dave’s transparency will prove a great encouragement and support to couples on the journey back from sexual addiction." - Melissa Williams, CoDirector of Hidden Hurt, a program for spouses of sex addicts.

Shattered Vows Shattered Vows: Hope and Healing for Women who have been Sexually Betrayed
by Debra Laaser

When His Secret Sin Breaks Your Heart When His Secret Sin Breaks Your Heart: Letters to Hurting Wives
by Kathy Gallagher

A difficult book to categorize, but a very usefull tool. This book consists of 158 response letters written by Kathy Gallagher to women who wrote to her for advice on how to handle situations resulting from a husband's affair, sexual behavior or addiction. Letters are categorized by the issue they address. Very complete coverage of even the most difficult issue and the advice is quite sound.

Understanding Your Partner's Addiction


by Mark Laaser

Probably the most thorough Christian book on the causes of and recovery from sexual addiction. An excellent book to begin to understand a partner's struggle.

by Harry Schaumburg

Great reasource to understand the misconceptions a sex addict has about intimacy and relationship. Can be helpful to partners as well to better understand what true intimacy is.

Personal Healing Stories


Making a Quilt Out of Cobwebs Making a Quilt out of Cobwebs: A Journey from Betrayal to Hope
by Georgia Miller

Marriage is full of challenges but addictions and betrayal can turn any marriage into a disaster. This is the story of one woman's journey through the tears of betrayal to the blessings of a life of hope in Christ.

I Surrender All I Surrender All: Rebuilding a Marriage Broken by Pornography
By: Clay Crosse, Renee Crosse, Mark Tabb

Related Issues


Codependency: a Christian PerspectiveCodependency: A Christian Perspective

by Pat Springle

Describing how to break free from the hurt and manipulation of dysfunctional relationships. While not specifically about spouses of men who struggle with purity issues, all the issues discussed in this book are relevant to women in that situation.

Intimate IssuesIntimate Issues
by Linda Dillow & Lorraine Pintus

The best book we have ever read on sex. Tasteful, warm, not clinical, tips, humor, realistic. Christian, not Sex Addiction-focused but very helpful for couples affected by it.

Telling Yourself the TruthTelling Yourself the Truth
by William Backus

How to identify misbeliefs and handle your thoughts.

Into Abba's ArmsInto Abba's Arms
by Sandra D. Wilson

Wilson leads readers on a personal journey to find ultimate acceptance.

The Search for SignificanceThe Search for Significance Workbook: Building Your Self-Worth on God's Truth
by Robert McGee

Self-esteem, dealings w feelings, lies and truths. Powerful, excellent workbook-style material.

Love is a ChoiceLove is a Choice
by Robert Hemfelt, Frank Minirth, & Paul Meier

Many examples of what codependency can look like for both addicts and partners. Thorough but easy to read and very helpful for someone who struggles with the concept of codependency.

Bondage to BondingBondage to Bonding: Escaping Codependency, Embracing Biblical Love
by Nancy Groom

Excellent codependency resource. Biblical perspective, written by someone who has been there. In this book, the husband’s issue was alcohol not sex addiction, but same principles apply.

Boundaries in Marriage
by Henry Cloud & John Townsend

Marital boundaries are very frequently problematic in couples where one struggles with sexual addiction. Excellent resource for betrayed women to find sanity in marriage.
 
Financial Partners
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Hope, Help & Healing
Hidden Hurt